rose in bloom - I've Chosen to Now .....

I've chosen to now disregard entirely the word “diet”! 

It's a negative word, and it's a word that conjures up all sorts of horrendous “go-withouts!”

It's a word that shouldn't be used to, or about, fat people. There are many other words to describe healthy eating habits in a far nicer and less rigid way, and we should insist the word “diet” as such be removed from our vocabulary. It's a word which gives a “defeatist” meaning. 

Anyway, the word “diet” does not in reality mean a list of foods that restricts our eating. It means the life-style we live - what we do, where we go, what we read and how we socialise. In that description of course the food we eat falls within the socialising, but how is it we've allowed the true meaning of the word to be lost? 

Because we have become used to the word describing the food we've GOT to eat and GOT to go without, we begin to think that we're never going to lose weight. We begin to think that we'll for ever be “dieting”, that the food which is on the diet will never change, that our life has become boring and stilted with no opportunity or hope of ever improving. Throw that idea out the window right now. It couldn't be further from the truth. That belief is doing damage to our and your emotions and feelings.

Look around your local bookstores and seek out some really positive books written by Australian health professionals and nutritionists which all give constructive information based on knowledge and good old fashioned common sense. Visit your local library to seek out books of this kind.

Surround yourself with “feel-good” publications, even small newsletters, by women preferably who have experienced many of the things you are going or have gone through as far as dieting and the guilt associated with eating is concerned.  Read and learn what steps they’ve taken to take back  control of their lives.  That’s not to say their ways are the only ways, and what will work for one woman may not work for another, but at least get as wide a knowledge as you can, so you can work out what is best for you.  And you can do it.

Keep always in mind that all the so-called “experts” providing “answers” to our mixed up feelings about ourselves, can include people or companies that are only out to make a lot of money and don’t really care or understand what we are dealing with; which is, after all, intolerance and rejection.  

With the advent of the internet and more particularly FaceBook the countless suggestions and demands of young and inexperienced writers on how we should live our lives has again shown us that too often WE know what’s best for us and they haven’t a clue.  Listen to your own instincts and intuition;  they know you very well! 

Fat people can be happy and healthy - don't listen to those who say otherwise.  Research is being undertaken all the time with surprising results confirming that size and even weight aren’t always the big problem that we’re told they are.  It's all up to you, and how much you want to take control of your life.  

My objective?

To no longer be accountable to others, especially those who don't really care about me, and to use my own discretion as to how I want to lead my life  

What I gained! 

Increasingly layers of good self-esteem became absorbed into my personality, my thinking and emotional self.

"Rose In Bloom" - © Copyright 2002-2020, Rosemary Parry-Brock, Australia

(Please bear in mind this booklet was first printed in the 1990s.  Compare that with today's attitudes.)

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