rose in bloom - Going to the Doctor!

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Going to the doctor! As well as specialists and other so-called “professionals” 




Tell me please, why is it when a fat woman goes to the doctor she often comes out feeling worse, worse, worse then when she went in? I think I've figured it out. It's all because many doctors and health professionals don't know how to really look and find the woman inside the fat outer covering, but only see someone who is bigger than they think she should be. 

I've visited doctors and specialists who have literally snarled at me. Told me not to bother coming back. Told me they could do nothing for me until I did something for myself. Told me unless I lost weight I would be refused treatment at both their surgery and the local hospital. Were they only trying to help me by frightening me? They certainly frightened me - they scared the living daylights out of me, but they didn't help me! 

An ingrown toenail is caused because you're overweight! Pimples are caused because you're overweight. Your hair is going grey because you're overweight. You have winter sniffles because you're overweight. You have an allergy because you're overweight.  You need a hearing aid?  Well, it’s because you’re overweight! Really feminine things like having a Pap smear or Mammogram - well if you're overweight, expect to get treated as a BIG problem. Don't get upset if the Doctor or Radiologist becomes angry and exasperated because he or she doesn't quite know how to deal with your ample body in a tolerant sensitive way. Don't expect any respect, because my girl, you definitely won't get it. And you don't. 

However once again I digress. I was unhappy, sad, miserable, desolate, at the end of my tether, and most of all, still fat.   I felt worthless, I had no friends, I had no confidence, and I could see no way out of my misery.


So what changed?

I picked up a book on the “remainder” counter of a local bookshop for $1.00 and the title appealed to me.  I bought it.  

It was called, “Breaking All the Rules”.      A book by a fat girl, a fat girl who by some miracle had written her story, but it wasn't her story at all. She'd written about me!  

My objective? 

To read, to learn, to absorb, and to put into practice, many of the things which had worked for the author of the book I had picked up, as well as any other “positive” reading material I could get my hands on



What I gained! 

A growing awareness that I was “ME” - a unique and a one-off person, who could take charge of my life if I really wanted to!  And I was determined to do just that.







* Thank goodness we have many more doctors and health professionals today who have realised we are flesh and blood people, with feelings, fears and we’re scared at being told we’re a “big” problem to everyone in society.  Today there are more professionals who realise we deserve the same respect that they expect; Doctors and Specialists who are sympathetic without being patronising, and who are understanding and completely at ease with treating us as someone worthy of respect and therefore a valuable person and patient. 

"Rose In Bloom" - © Copyright 2002-2020, Rosemary Parry-Brock, Australia


(Please bear in mind this booklet was first printed in the 1990s.  Compare that with today's attitudes.)




Copyright © R Parry-Brock, 2002 
Reprinted 2010
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